So for the past 6 months, it seems to me like just everyone on my fb list is getting married. I mean seriously...from my junior in high school to senior from college...from my fourth cousin to...wait I don't even remember who that guy is, but he's getting married too!
I don't understand whats all the rush about. Given all the hype and hoopla about finding "the one" and getting settled down with him, I think we are forgetting about all the awesome things that we can do in the mean time. While some of these are optional, there are 25 things that feature as "must do" on my premarital bucket list.
So here it goes...the 25 things that according to me every girl should try out before getting married:
1) Adopt a Pet - Before you take on the big responsibility of taking care of your life partner and his family, try taking care of a pet. Try catering to your pet's needs (which I am sure will be way wayy less then your life partners), taking care of his fooding habits and cleaning up his shit...
2) Travel with your Girlfriends - For one you will rarely get to do this after you get married and secondly I believe there is something too comfortable, fun-filled and yet adventurous about holidaying your girlfriends!
3) Travel Alone- Just pick up your bag-pack, choose a place you have never been to before and leave. Marriage they say is a journey...So before you gear up to take that journey with your partner, why not travel alone once, explore new places, meet new people, learn about new cultures and somewhere along the path, you will realize, you have learnt something new about yourself too.
4) Make out with a Complete Stranger - Yes!!! Why not...Saw a really cute guy over the bar...reach out to him, drink two tequila shots, hold him by the collar of his shirt, take him to a secluded area and voila! Time to have some fun girl !!!
5) Face one of your Fears - Scared of heights, do skydiving...scared of water, take swimming lessons...anything....but face your fears alone, and the feeling you will have after that cannot be compared to anything else!
6) Get a Tattoo - Believe me girl, a tattoo is more permanent than a marriage!
7) Live Alone - Or with roomates, but not your parents! Autonomy is awesome, have your own place, manage your own finances, nobody lecturing you about sleeping late or not helping with the household chores.
8) Suffer a Heart Break - Cry yourself to sleep, wake up to a wet pillow, experience the not being able to breathe feeling by the mere mention of his name, watch your hunger die and your smile vanish...But believe me coming out of it will make you a stronger individual, it will teach you to never take love for granted and understand the true value of the right guy when he comes along.
9) Dump Someone - Well pleasant experience or not, its somehow empowering to be the one who calls the final shot in a relationship and ends it for the right reason.
10) Get in touch with those Five People who at a point Mattered a lot to You - Marriage introduces you to whole lot new arena of relations...Before taking on that challenge, why not revive those that you already have!
11) Work hard at Job - Make a career choice, get a job and work your ass-off at being the best at it.
12) Try Something New - A new cuisine, a new religion, a new language or just a new hobby...the idea is just to get out of your comfort zone.
13) Make strangers feel uncomfortable in public places - Whistle at a passing by stranger, eve- tease a hot guy, make loud and weird sounds while having your soup on a date or simply play "I wanna f**k you"-Akon in a metro. I don't think this one has a logical explanation, but just do it for the heck of it!
14) Start a savings account - Before planning it with somebody else, plan your future on your own. Start a savings account and be prepared for any kind of emergencies without relying on anybody else.
15) Dance in the rain - I mean it, don't just get wet in the rain, feel those raindrops on your face, let them wash away the worries, play your favorite song in your mind and just forget everything and dance.
16) Splurge on yourself - Just because you can....and once a while, you deserve it!
17) Clean up your Act - AKA no smoking, less drinking, healthy eating more exercising.
18) Get to know yourself - Should go without saying! Before getting to know your partner, know all about yourself!
19) Get over your Past Relationships - Every relationship leaves some footprints behind, so before entering into the new phase of your life, don't forget to erase all those old memories. Believe me there is no point in carrying dead load on your back!
20) Write Down your Feelings in a Blog - Well am doing it, why can't you. There are times when you want yourself to be heard, a blog could serve as a perfect platform for you.
21) Do some charity - Or some social work...Donate just 2% of your income or spend an hour teaching kids who cannot afford education or spend some time on a weekend at an old age home...The joy of doing something for someone without any personal gain is incomparable.
22) Fall in Love with the Bad Guy - By bad I don't mean a biker dude with tattoos, by bad I mean a guy who hurts you everyday without leaving any physical marks, who makes you cry for hours, who does every possible wrong with you and still blames you for spoiling the relationship.
23) Date two guys at once - For once be the bad girl, and see for how long can you keep the act hidden ;)
24) Have a Friend with Benefits - Don't enter into all those technicalities of a relationship...Just have your friend with some added benefits!
25) Fall in Love...with Yourself - Before falling in love with somebody else, fall in love with yourself...Believe me, it makes things a lot more easier.
